Teens/Tweens and Porn

  • Teens/Tweens and Porn

     lindar updated 2 weeks, 5 days ago 3 Members · 4 Posts
  • jeanny

    Member
    02/03/2020 at 5:13 PM

    How are you ladies handling this hot button issue with your kids? I know we have mainly moms of girls in the group right now but I’d love to hear from everyone!

    I’d always hoped it wouldn’t be an issue with our kids but it seems that gr 5/6 is the point where it becomes a reality in their world. Anja was introduced to it by one of the boys on the bus and thankfully was grossed out enough by it that she only let her curiosity get the better of her one time beyond that and hasn’t returned to it. This morning I found out that Andrew has discovered it too and has been quite active with it. I don’t know how he first became aware of it or how he found his way to the websites but we were very quick to shut it down this morning. I know that they’re really curious about sex, the human body, and porn in general so I didn’t let myself freak out but I really was NOT ready for my little boy to have this stuff open in his browsing history (tabs still open). He has lost his phone for the evenings this week and we will be reviewing the kids’ browsing and chat history/activity once a week (or more) until we’re convinced they’re being safe online and we can trust them to stay off sites we’ve said no to. 

    I’ve spent the day a little freaked out by the fact that my kids are old enough to even want to look at porn or investigate sex that closely!  Oh and Andrew came out to us recently so there that now too Worried  My head may implode they are growing up so fast!

    Jeanny

  • lindar

    Member
    02/04/2020 at 11:05 AM

    In this phase of parenting we are lucky to have two girls.  I am not as naive as to think that they have never seen anything, but I don’t think porn surfing is something I need to worry about.  I am mostly worried about predators.  

  • lenore

    Member
    02/05/2020 at 9:12 AM

    It is always a oh darn moment when we realize our kids are growing up. I don’t make a big deal about it because it is going to happen. If it becomes excessive then we talk about it. I also take this as an opportunity to talk to them about consent and abuses in that industry, how do they see women in general, how do they treat the women in their lives, etc.

    This is not a one time, sit-down conversation but an ongoing dialogue. If they are old enough to express interest then they are old enough to have conversations about it. I have even had my kids approach me about a porn-related topic.

    My approach is acknowledging that they are curious and will check it out and that they will have access to it no matter how many controls a parent uses at home. If they have friends it will happen. 

    I focus more on how they handle it. Each child is different, too.

    It can be awkward for both child and parent. Initially I got the typical β€œAhhhhh, Mom!!!” reaction but, hey, if they are going to go there then they need the conversations. Fact of life in my house.

  • lindar

    Member
    02/06/2020 at 9:56 AM

    As far as online predators go, I can only assume we all have strict rules for our kids.

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